Have you ever noticed how ashamed you feel when you do things you enjoy?
There are all these other things, Important Things that You Need To Do instead of the Fun Things.
Yet when you start in on those Important Things, you wish you were back doing the Fun Things.
Or, even worse, you worry about yet another set of things: the Life-Changing Things, the Things You Should Be Doing to Achieve Your Dreams and Goals.
You keep putting them off in favour of the Fun Things or the Important Things, and then you feel like you’re Not Achieving Your Full Potential.
In the end, you do Hurtful Things to yourself, because kicking your own arse is what you’re meant to do when you fail, right? Not only that; you also do Hurtful Things to others, because they need to know how untrustworthy, how much of a failure, you are.
My name’s Rob Farquhar, and I’m sick of kicking my own arse. I want to change the way I feel about the things I do.
Which things? All of them. Fun Things, Important Things, Life Changing Things. Chores, self-improvement steps, day job stuff, hobbies; even those little moments of peace that we could use more of.
Everything you and I do, whether Important, Fun or Life Changing, is worth celebrating.
There’s value in everything we do; it’s just that we’re distracted by our shoulds and our shames to notice.
Each post is an example of what I reckon we can all do:
- Take the time to find the “extra” at the beginning of every “ordinary”.
- Stand up for ourselves against that nasty little voice of fear at the back of our heads that tells us we have better, more responsible things to do.
- Celebrate the things that bring a little more joy into our lives as we do them.
But most importantly, this web log is about activity. It’s about effort. It’s about movement.
It’s about doing things.
I’ve written and thought plenty of aspirational things before. I’ve dreamed dreams, set goals, made lifestyle design plans.
But here, I’m about the simple (yes, and the complex) things that we just do, usually without noticing. I’m about starting from where I am and the steps I’m taking.
Do I have a destination yet? Maybe. I’m still working it out. But sometimes, worrying about the destination is the very thing that stops the journey before it starts.
So for now, how about we join this little society and see where our feet, our hands, our minds and our hearts take us?
- I / me / myself: Rob Farquhar
- Vickie / my lady: Vickie Farquhar, my wife and blogger at Midustouch and Ask The Kitchen Auntie.
- Sookie and / or Ziggy: Our dogs and (core) fans.
- Zelda: Our dog, still sorely missed.
Credited in posts. Names may be changed to protect the guilty, the innocent and the vaguely suspect.